Alexis Bushnell

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On becoming chronically ill.

For a few years now I have been processing grief and, more specifically, my aversion to processing it. Nobody loves grieving but, since losing my Gran at 11 and then my Dad at 14, I have become very adept at avoiding it for a variety of reasons. Grief came up

Greysexuality and the fear of sexual attraction.

Greysexuality and the fear of sexual attraction.

I was 36 the one, and so far only, time I experienced sexual attraction. That was last year and I am hoping with everything that I have that it never happens again. I didn't realise at the time that what I was experiencing was sexual attraction. In fact

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Power and Ulysses pacts.

The corrupting influence of power has been on my mind a lot lately, both on a global scale, within smaller communities, and personally. I'm not going to discuss the global stuff here so let's start with why it's been on my mind personally and

5 square communication cards with cute chubby unicorns holding blank cards. On them is handwritten; I feel sad, I feel angry, I feel scared, I am in a trauma response, I feel insecure.

Communication for when you can’t communicate.

Sometimes I can't communicate effectively - that trauma life! But really, when I'm triggered (in the medical sense) or my nervous system is activated through intense anxiety, stress or sensory overwhelm, my brain goes into what's commonly known as "fight or flight"

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How Legally Blonde saved my shitty week.

This week has been a lot about facing my social vulnerability. I am easily manipulated and taken advantage of by people because I take people at their word and give people the benefit of the doubt. And in the midst of the awfulness that causes, and the trauma that brings

Let’s talk about jealousy.

A partner once said, "you haven't got a jealous bone in your body" to me, he was mistaken but it inspired this writing. Being polyamorous people can assume that I never feel jealousy, but I do. I feel jealousy - but instead of lashing out and